I've never liked the color pink. Or hearts. Or doilies. And I'm diabetic so the extra sugar on Valentine's doesn't do much for me. That's strike 1 against Valentine's Day.
Strike 2 occurred in 5th grade. Think back to when you were in elementary school and Valentine's Day meant a class party with red punch, sugar cookies, and mailboxes to receive all of your valentines from classmates. That was when Valentine's Day was fun and awesome: it was an excuse for a party during school. I looked forward to these parties every year and 5th grade was to be the ultimate party because it's your last year in elementary school and lets face it, there aren't any Valentine parties in middle school. Unfortunately for me, I have only missed 1 day of school in my entire K-12 years. And that one day occurred on Valentine's Day in 5th grade. Yes, I was puking my guts out on the day that was to be the party of all parties. I couldn't hand out the Valentines I had so tediously worked on, wouldn't get to eat heart shaped cookies and instead sipped on ginger ale. I missed out on the last awesome party in elementary school. Thus began my disdain for Valentines Day.
As I grew older I nicknamed Valentine's Day "Singles Awareness Day" because lets face it, this holiday really sucks when you're single. Enter feelings of loneliness, self consciousness for not being pretty enough, and what's-wrong-with-me-why-can't-I-get-a-guy feelings. And all over facebook, school, and blogs, everyone brags about that special someone they are with on this day. It seems like mylar balloons, chocolates, and roses are slammed in your face, reminding you how incredibly lonely and pathetic you are on this day. Strike 3.
Now that I'm married, I still loathe this day, despite having someone to share it with. Why? I think it's because the world has decided this to be the one day a year we declare love for each other. And Tyler and I do a pretty decent job sharing our love for one another
everyday, not just Valentine's Day. We say "I love you" multiple times a day, surprise each other with little gifts randomly, not just on this one day of obligated gifts. We perform acts of service for each other that
show our love. Why do we need a silly holiday to remind us we love each other?! We already know that and show our love daily!
The whole concept of Valentine's Day is so superficial to me, and true love is so much more than that. Sure, you can post a picture of the flowers your love gave you, but does that really mean anything? If he truly loves you, he'd empty the dishwasher for you, or take out the garbage
showing you how much he loves you. I think a husband who sits down and helps me fold laundry is so much more romantic that one who brings home a box of chocolates.
And lucky me, my husband does that with me weekly.
Who needs Valentine's Day?!